Sorry to say this but people are not thinking about you anywhere near the length of time you think. What a relief. How much better do you feel knowing this?
People will be thinking about the next thing for themselves. Selfishly maybe. If we don’t think and focus on what we need and want it won’t happen.
What people do at times is twist things to serve their agendas. That twisting may affect you and you need to be wary of it. Remaining true to your ideas, goals and outcomes will guide you through the rough patches.
Knowing others aren’t thinking about you is liberating and allows for to be who you need to be. It is ingrained in us to be consistent and this does serve us on many fronts. How it doesn’t serve us is when we need to change to get the different outcome.
This is where things can get tricky. If you want to improve your health by stopping the drinking of alcohol, you will find your self being inconsistent next time you go to the pub. Your friends will show a level of confusion and may not get it initially. You may feel great pulls to be consistent with your previous self. It is the resistance to that old way, the old habit, that will set you on a new path. You will be tested repeatedly and will find a number of things changing as a result. It is worth it, hang in there.
Stuart Keith
Dad's My Hero 