A telling way to know if you like someone is to ask if you would have a meal with them. Would you enjoy their company, learn something, share a laugh and leave feeling that little bit richer for the experience and want to do it again.
How would you invite yourself to dinner? Where would you go? How long would you plan on hanging out and do you actually feel comfortable at the idea of sitting across from yourself and the possible topics that may come up. Remember this person knows you well and knows all your secrets and nuances.
Is there something in particular you would to like say? Apologies for or commit to if you had the opportunity?
I know I much prefer who I am today and realized that about 10 years ago I probably would not have wanted to sit down with myself because I knew I would have given myself a hard time about a lot things I was not doing well at or addressing at the time. It wasn’t through not knowing it was my attitude to life, my outlook and frame of the world was out of whack. This all came to bare and it stripped me back to my very core.
Lucky for me I was able to pick myself up and find a new path. It certainly had its ups and downs however because I changed my view and things have worked out far better than I could have imagined 10 years ago.
What would you learn from yourself? What do you think you would make yourself think about as you left the bar, restaurant, fine dining, fast food place or backyard after the BBQ?
Knowing you know your secrets, where you dropped the ball, didn’t do all you could do, give your best shot on a deal. Or didn’t listen properly to someone close to you and give them the time and love they may have needed, how would you feel and respond if asked about these things?
Would you disregard yourself as worthless pain in the arse and start abusing yourself? Would you apologies or forgive yourself? Would you commit to doing better by putting into practice what you know you but haven’t been doing? Would you look to get help in certain areas?
Think about it. Give it some serious thought and you may find you have all you need right in front of you, in you.
Enjoy You. If you aren’t, then have an honest chat with yourself and see what comes of it.
Stuart Keith
Dad's My Hero 